The Joys of Venting

Here is a quick post about an everyday thing that may be able to help you out.

Venting is a very important part of any relationship. It lets you get things off your chance and let your other half know about what going on in your life. By continuously venting you can let out pent-up anger that you may be holding about something and avoid having a missed aimed out burst on your partner.

Venting as you see can help opening things up between two people and let them make a deeper connection, but there is another way you can use venting. Now nobody wants to thing that their relationship has soured and could be over but one way you can judge that is by seeing the reaction from your venting. I once dated someone who didn’t listen to what I had to say when I was frustrated and kept putting me down. By venting to them I was always causing them grief and wasting their time. This relationship took a nasty turn for the worse and didn’t end up for me.

So by paying attention to the level of attention and care your other half puts in while you tell them about your troubles you can know where you stand. This may not always be the case but if somebody will not give your problems the time of day how good are they for you?

Hope you liked the quick post and as always share with your friends and have a good one.

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Why not to cheat

Hey readers sorry for the big break, I have been working some crazy hours at my job and haven’t had time to write.

 

I would like to address the idea of cheating on someone stemming from the last post about how to catch a cheater. So in some religions it is talked about cheating on your husband or wife is deemed as a sin. So you may be non religious at all and thinking so why shouldn’t I cheat?

One of the key reasons you shouldn’t cheat on your better half is just basically not being a scum bag. The reasons of cheating are pretty simple there is someone else you find attractive physically or something else that revs your engine that your significant other doesn’t do but why? If you are going to cheat on them why not call them up and break up? It takes about 3 minutes of your time to just call somebody up and say well its over. That way you are not a scum bag and just a regular person moving on.

Another reason you shouldn’t cheat on somebody is you don’t want that cheater scum bag reputation. People can get a bad rap in the dating world as a cheater and most people won’t want anything to do with you. If anybody knows that they are going to invest their time in you for you just to stab them in that back they most likely won’t be making that risk.

Third and last quick reason why you shouldn’t cheat on your significant other is…….. Karma. I have seen it many times that things that people do now bite them in the ass later. You could be happy now screwing with a few people but later in life it could come back to haunt you when your sig other that you’re in love with is out shagging all the strange in the world while your home with their kids. All of this is just food for thought and to help you think about it before you end up ruining yours and some bodies life.

 

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Change your Status ?

Something I ran into through my years of dating was if I should change my Facebook status or not. It’s usually the same scenario you meet someone and hit it off now you’re dating and they add you online and you feel the pressure to change your status to show your taken. What I am going to tell you is don’t just jump on the band waggon.

The reason I think you shouldn’t just go change your status is if it’s a fresh relationship you don’t know this person that well why jump the gun and tell the world about it. I think people all too often want to say hey look at me and don’t think about if it doesn’t work out right away. Nobody likes to see the person in and out of relationships for the next six months so why not leave a little mystery. You can just change it to not show anything about a relationship status. This way you don’t look like the loser that can’t keep someone happy or some skank.

Some may think your trying to hide something or you’re not proud to date them but sometimes people knowing ruins things. For example I dated a girl that I worked with once that became a superior to me and could have lost her job if work found out we were dating. You need to think about how social media changes things around and could ruin a relationship for the two of you.

That is my two cents on Facebook and statuses for now. And especially with all the negative news on Facebook maybe your better with less media than not!

 

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Who Picks up the check?

There is something that is commonly talked about when it goes into the roles of men and women about who pays for a meal? I as a male may view it differently than a female but will just give you something to think about.

For a long time it has always been the males role in a relationship to look after his female counterpart. This can mean many different things but in our case we are talking about paying for a meal. Men used to be the one that always picked up a check to take a gal out. This was due to men being the only one working in a family, providing for their wives that stayed home and took care of their children. In today’s society this is very far from the case as women have flourishing careers in many fields. So the argument that we see in this point is after dinner should the guy just pay?

Well in my opinion from different relationships I have been in and the state of things it should be a split. Now I don’t mean 50/50 split I mean it would be nice for a girl to take her guy out every once in a while. Going out has grown in price in the last couple of years. Higher fuel cost and labor has made it less pleasing about going out. With the growing costs just seems fair for a guy not to have to spend ever time he is at dinner, while his female counter part uses her money to buy lets say personal stuff.

Now this is just some food for thought. In my current relationship I do pay for every meal we go too. So keep an open mind and try to survive the times.

 

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Sharing

The most important thing in a relationship is sharing. Sharing the feelings you have for each other and feeling like you have each others back. I recently had a situation that happened in my relationship that brought things to light where sharing would have alleviated a lot of the tension that was going on.

My girlfriend recently has been going through a hard time where she doesn’t seem to want to hang out and have me come over to here parents house. I would ask what she is doing and she avoids my texts till its real late or just avoids me asking to come over. So me being human I start thinking she is cheating on me or that she isn’t very interested.

Well yesterday when I was over at her house there was a vicious argument between her parents with an abundance of yelling. She quickly gets ready and practically pushes me out the door to go to dinner. On the ride she explains about how her parents are stressed about things that are going on in their life right now and are really fighting a ton. She goes on to tell me that this has been going on a bunch and it is embarrassing for her to talk about  and she just hides away till it’s over. Which I then inquire about this happening more and she said it has been happening as long as she can remember and didn’t want me to have to be there for it.

So what can be learned from this? If she would have just shared this with me and let me in I wouldn’t have like our relationship was over. I did reassured her that I am not judging her and that being her boyfriend I support her. Relationships are all about trust and knowing the other person has your back. You need to let the other person in your life know things so you can deal with them together and not as a lone solider. Sure it may be scary and you may thing they won’t like what you tell them and if they don’t they probably aren’t right for you.

So share away with your love and let them know whats going on in your life. Its been a long week of work and I am going to go chill. Please share with your friends and have a good one.

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Whose dreams?

The problem that a lot of couples face at some point in time is, what really matters in the relationship? What compromises can we make where both people are on a level ground and there is going to be no love lost? I think that just about everything can be worked through suck as politics, watching the kids, and what to eat. Many things that you end up deciding will not make you look back and have resentment other than your dreams.

Everybody has dreams some people act on them and others just let them fall to the wayside. Some its a dream career or to make the best duct tape prom dress. Whatever your dream is if you are going to try to achieve it you should go forward full steam ahead and give it your all. But what I would like to tell you about is when your significant other doesn’t share your dream.

I have dealt with this and I am sure some of you have too, where your other half doesn’t want you to take that job or do those late night workouts. The thing is this is your life and you need to make the most out of it for you. If in your relationship you can’t be supported for doing something that is a passion of yours maybe your relationship isn’t worth it. I am not saying just go dump somebody cause you want to be a cheese dog eating champion. But sometimes we get caught up with being in a relationship that we forget about the individual we are in it. And if you get the offer of a lifetime for work and have to move to take it and are not supported then the other person doesn’t share your goals and probably doesn’t deserve you.

Well that’s my two cents on that hope everybody can work everything out. Please share and have a safe one.

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