The Joys of Venting

Here is a quick post about an everyday thing that may be able to help you out.

Venting is a very important part of any relationship. It lets you get things off your chance and let your other half know about what going on in your life. By continuously venting you can let out pent-up anger that you may be holding about something and avoid having a missed aimed out burst on your partner.

Venting as you see can help opening things up between two people and let them make a deeper connection, but there is another way you can use venting. Now nobody wants to thing that their relationship has soured and could be over but one way you can judge that is by seeing the reaction from your venting. I once dated someone who didn’t listen to what I had to say when I was frustrated and kept putting me down. By venting to them I was always causing them grief and wasting their time. This relationship took a nasty turn for the worse and didn’t end up for me.

So by paying attention to the level of attention and care your other half puts in while you tell them about your troubles you can know where you stand. This may not always be the case but if somebody will not give your problems the time of day how good are they for you?

Hope you liked the quick post and as always share with your friends and have a good one.

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Cheating

The on thing that nobody want’s to learn about their better half is that they have been with someone else. I have had the displeasure of this happening to me a few times so I am going to lay down some things to look for that will help catch a cheater.

  1. Blame You

Normally something that people who are two timing you are going to do is push the suspicions away from them. In most cases they will do is accuse you of some moral wrong doing in the relationship so that they feel you are not thinking they are cheating. I myself think this sounds crazy but after having an ex claim I was cheating and I must not be into her then turned around and cheated it made sense.

2 No Answer

So something that is also really common is not having any contact from your partner for a while. Sure there are other cases that this will happen but it could point to cheating. If the person you are in a relationship is always answering calls and texts and on their phone and all of a sudden for the past few days it takes longer to respond that’s a sign. This points to their time that was used to answer you turned into time to answer someone else. A few times this happened to me where a time I would usually text my girlfriend  I suddenly couldn’t get a hold of her because she was busy. this sends up red flags because she was never to busy to answer before and I never knew she got home from work so what was she doing? This leads me to the next section…..

3 Trust your gut

If something feels off in your relationship you need to trust it. Now I am a pretty trusting person and if you are like me you think the best of the people who you are dating. But on the other side of the coin if weird things are happening you should start to evaluate what is going on. When I had a few clues and had that feeling I confronted my ex and she ended up denying it and her answers didn’t add up. That is when I knew for sure she was cheating.

4 Sex

This was one that I should have picked up on that I didn’t. If you are having regular sex with your partner and then none there is something up. In my case it was “oh im tired” and a various of other excuses that never happened before. Especially when we used to make love before she went to work all the time. The reason for this is the person cheating is feeling guilty for what they are doing and can’t stand to be with you that way.

5 Phones

The number one way to tell if someone is cheating is their phone. IF you have access to your partners phone and your suspect them of cheating it’s probably on their phone. Most people slip up and forgot to deleted some message or some picture that is incriminating. Also things that you can look at are what they are liking on Facebook or who is commenting on all their posts. These things all tie together the point of if your other half tweaks when you just pick their phone up they are hiding something and you shouldn’t just brush it off.

I hope this was somewhat helpful and can help others from prolonging the pain of being put on. I have had this happen a few times and it is not fun. So keep your eyes open and try not to let love blind you so much.

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To Say I Love You

So we have all been there thinking do I say those three words or not? I was actually just there myself in my current relationship and let me tell you it felt great to get it off my chest.

I am not sure when this game of chicken of being the first one to say I love you to someone, but seems like that’s always the case. Everyone is always playing around it thinking how do you end the night? Do they feel the same way? What if they don’t? The truth of the matter is who cares?

I think no matter what if you are feeling in love with someone tell them. If your relationship is that much tilted in  your way where you feel more than them then they don’t deserve you. Don’t you want to be in a relationship where there is as much love as your putting out coming back to you? I think its good to just say it and see what happens let love ring!!!

Alright that is my public service announcement for the day! So sack up and tell someone special how you feel.

……. ohh and by the way my special someone said I know me too.

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Cheap things to do

So we have all had those times where we are broke as a joke without a nickel for a coke, but still would like to hang out with that special. So I came up with  small list of things that I have done that got me to hang with a special person but at the same time save some bucks.

Drive and Jam

Who doesn’t love to drive around and jam to some good tunes. I always loved cruising on some country back roads just talking and getting to know somebody while also sharing music we love. If it was somebody really special I would set up music I wanted to hear that made me think about them to let them know how I felt. And lastly you can always find a place to “park” to make out or whatever you choose ;).

 

Buy a Puzzle

Puzzles are relatively cheap and if you get one that is big it can take a while to complete. I recently completed a month-long journey putting a puzzle together with my girlfriend. By doing this there was always something to do after dinner and at the end of putting it together you can glue it and have a cool picture to keep.

 

Stream and Chill

This one was bound to come up right? If your kinda a movie buff like me you probably like to watch movies a lot. By picking one of these services (Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, etc) that you probably already have you can just hang out and share your favorite shows with your partner. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t like an excuse to cuddle on the couch with that someone special.

Local Site See

So many places have a lot of cool touristy attractions that locals don’t always go see cause it’s not new and exciting. I encourage you to find someplace that is a nice local attraction to take some cheesy pictures and maybe learn something. It’s always cool to make a unique memory and seeing something like Niagara Falls will blow your mind. (Yea if you have never seen the falls I encourage you to do so its pretty sweet. Even if it’s a vacation stop you won’t be disappointed.

 

Alright all that is my quick list of cheap stuff to do for a date night. I hope you got a new idea of something fun to do. As always share with your friends and have a safe one….I have a puzzle to finish..

 

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The Holiday Split

Well since it is a holiday weekend I thought it was a good time to discuss how you split the time between you and your other half’s families. This is something that is usually hard at the start of a relationship because each person wants to pull their way a bit and it may start an argument. The best option is to talk about it first and not assume anything.

So probably around a week or so before a holiday you should be discussing with your new partner what they usually do for the day. Taking initiative shows you care and helps you from running into that last-minute I thought we were going here thing. This lets you know everything in advance makes for smooth sailing and you can let people know about when you are showing up. But how do you actually split the holiday?

Well for me I always think compromise. I think both people in a relationship should get to do a little bit of what they would like on this holiday and everyone could be happy. But maybe you don’t really like a certain holiday or you’re not used to doing anything with family on Easter you can negotiate for more time on a different holiday that holds more meaning to you.

The most important part of this is that both people stay happy in the relationship. Holidays can be stressful and people get turned around on one another so you need to make sure you do something to make everyone happy. And either way as long as you are with the person you love it will be a good memory to look back on.

 

Alright that was my two cents on that everyone have a good Passover and Easter weekend. As always share with your friends and have  good one.

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Sharing

The most important thing in a relationship is sharing. Sharing the feelings you have for each other and feeling like you have each others back. I recently had a situation that happened in my relationship that brought things to light where sharing would have alleviated a lot of the tension that was going on.

My girlfriend recently has been going through a hard time where she doesn’t seem to want to hang out and have me come over to here parents house. I would ask what she is doing and she avoids my texts till its real late or just avoids me asking to come over. So me being human I start thinking she is cheating on me or that she isn’t very interested.

Well yesterday when I was over at her house there was a vicious argument between her parents with an abundance of yelling. She quickly gets ready and practically pushes me out the door to go to dinner. On the ride she explains about how her parents are stressed about things that are going on in their life right now and are really fighting a ton. She goes on to tell me that this has been going on a bunch and it is embarrassing for her to talk about  and she just hides away till it’s over. Which I then inquire about this happening more and she said it has been happening as long as she can remember and didn’t want me to have to be there for it.

So what can be learned from this? If she would have just shared this with me and let me in I wouldn’t have like our relationship was over. I did reassured her that I am not judging her and that being her boyfriend I support her. Relationships are all about trust and knowing the other person has your back. You need to let the other person in your life know things so you can deal with them together and not as a lone solider. Sure it may be scary and you may thing they won’t like what you tell them and if they don’t they probably aren’t right for you.

So share away with your love and let them know whats going on in your life. Its been a long week of work and I am going to go chill. Please share with your friends and have a good one.

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Mental Health

This is not going to be a long post but more of a short  food for thought thing.

With all the recent things happening in the news with gun violence and mental health issues you should be aware of things your other half is doing. The purpose of this post isn’t about the whole guns are bad argument and we need to do this and that but about mental health. I will say as a legal gun owner I am open to longer wait times and what not but that is another topic.

My buddies girlfriend recently decided to take herself off of depression medication and now is looking to buy an AR-15………….. Seriously this is what problems are made of. I have tried telling my friend that this isn’t a good idea because she has family history with this stuff, but I am not sure how in-depth he will go. Seeing she is in the reserves it wouldn’t be hard to get her hands on something like this. So this poses a real big problem.

What I want you to take away from this is that you should gauge the mental health of your other half and discuss it. Many cases of mental health issues go undetected and people never know whats going on. No many of us aren’t health care professionals but doesn’t mean you can’t try to see if your partner needs to seek help. And in the case of buying a weapon that could harm themselves or others you should bring out  the tough love and tell them no. It’s hard to think these things about the people we care about but if we are going to change the world we need to start with ourselves.

 

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Please share and try to get educated on things such as mental health and depression. Hope everyone stays safe and the story above is just part of one side of someones life. I am hoping to help guide this person to do the right things.