Change your Status ?

Something I ran into through my years of dating was if I should change my Facebook status or not. It’s usually the same scenario you meet someone and hit it off now you’re dating and they add you online and you feel the pressure to change your status to show your taken. What I am going to tell you is don’t just jump on the band waggon.

The reason I think you shouldn’t just go change your status is if it’s a fresh relationship you don’t know this person that well why jump the gun and tell the world about it. I think people all too often want to say hey look at me and don’t think about if it doesn’t work out right away. Nobody likes to see the person in and out of relationships for the next six months so why not leave a little mystery. You can just change it to not show anything about a relationship status. This way you don’t look like the loser that can’t keep someone happy or some skank.

Some may think your trying to hide something or you’re not proud to date them but sometimes people knowing ruins things. For example I dated a girl that I worked with once that became a superior to me and could have lost her job if work found out we were dating. You need to think about how social media changes things around and could ruin a relationship for the two of you.

That is my two cents on Facebook and statuses for now. And especially with all the negative news on Facebook maybe your better with less media than not!

 

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Dating a Single Parent

So once upon a time I dated the “hot” girl at work that had a couple of kids. Going into this relationship I was the typical young dumb 20 something that didn’t think about the commitment that went into dating someone with children. Here are a few things that may help you if you’re considering dating someone who comes with a few extra human beings.

The first thing I learned was that no matter what happens for the most part your always second. Kids take up a lot of a parents time and they usually come first. If you can’t deal with dropping kids off at school and making sure there is always a baby sitter then dating somebody with kids is not for you. You need to realize going into this relationship that these kids mean the world to this person you and they need care all the time. So you are an important person in their life you just aren’t thee most important.

From the first lesson you can learn the second thing I found out quick, you aren’t going to go out often. When I dated this person I was around 22 so prime drinking age. I would want to go to the bars or out partying with my friends and she wanted to stay home. What I didn’t at the time was she had a job to do as a mother and going out all the time didn’t fit into that. So if you are cool with Netflix and chilling at home a majority of the time you could withstand this relationship.

Another thing that is important that you need to talk about is how the kids will view you? Are you the new mommy or daddy? Or just Frank mommy’s friend? This also involves if you are going to discipline the kids at all. This is something that people can go either way on. Don’t hit my kid, don’t yell at them, and so on. What I ended up being was mommy’s boy friend and the adult in the situation so it was agreed upon that I would correct them  if I saw them doing something that wasn’t right. I think this would have been a good situation if we kept going because the kids did have their own father and I wasn’t there to replace him.

One of the last things you should know about being in a relationship with someone with kids issss…. the kids will grow on your and if you  break up with this person your breaking up with them too. We all know we don’t go into something hoping for it to fail but in the case of breaking a kids heart you need to think about all the outcomes. My exes kids end up messaging me here and there but for the most part I think I was the one that lost my little friends.

So that’s it for this post so I don’t end up rambling on about an ex lover. I would like to thank all the people who started following the blog and urge everyone to share with your friends.

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Who Picks up the check?

There is something that is commonly talked about when it goes into the roles of men and women about who pays for a meal? I as a male may view it differently than a female but will just give you something to think about.

For a long time it has always been the males role in a relationship to look after his female counterpart. This can mean many different things but in our case we are talking about paying for a meal. Men used to be the one that always picked up a check to take a gal out. This was due to men being the only one working in a family, providing for their wives that stayed home and took care of their children. In today’s society this is very far from the case as women have flourishing careers in many fields. So the argument that we see in this point is after dinner should the guy just pay?

Well in my opinion from different relationships I have been in and the state of things it should be a split. Now I don’t mean 50/50 split I mean it would be nice for a girl to take her guy out every once in a while. Going out has grown in price in the last couple of years. Higher fuel cost and labor has made it less pleasing about going out. With the growing costs just seems fair for a guy not to have to spend ever time he is at dinner, while his female counter part uses her money to buy lets say personal stuff.

Now this is just some food for thought. In my current relationship I do pay for every meal we go too. So keep an open mind and try to survive the times.

 

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The Holiday Split

Well since it is a holiday weekend I thought it was a good time to discuss how you split the time between you and your other half’s families. This is something that is usually hard at the start of a relationship because each person wants to pull their way a bit and it may start an argument. The best option is to talk about it first and not assume anything.

So probably around a week or so before a holiday you should be discussing with your new partner what they usually do for the day. Taking initiative shows you care and helps you from running into that last-minute I thought we were going here thing. This lets you know everything in advance makes for smooth sailing and you can let people know about when you are showing up. But how do you actually split the holiday?

Well for me I always think compromise. I think both people in a relationship should get to do a little bit of what they would like on this holiday and everyone could be happy. But maybe you don’t really like a certain holiday or you’re not used to doing anything with family on Easter you can negotiate for more time on a different holiday that holds more meaning to you.

The most important part of this is that both people stay happy in the relationship. Holidays can be stressful and people get turned around on one another so you need to make sure you do something to make everyone happy. And either way as long as you are with the person you love it will be a good memory to look back on.

 

Alright that was my two cents on that everyone have a good Passover and Easter weekend. As always share with your friends and have  good one.

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Your Friend Flowers

Guys you ever felt you have been in a rut with your lady? Feel as if the spark is kinda died a bit and you don’t know how to recharge it? Your shot of lightning that is an easy fix is your new friend flowers.

Now flowers wont fix all your problems but to try to let the woman in your life you still find her special or that you do, find her a nice bouquet. women like flowers for many different reasons. They smell nice, look great, and they remind her that you got them for her.  Every time the female friend of yours walks into the room where these flowers are that you got her she is going to remember that. This can lead to her wanting to do a little something special for you.  Now you have the why, but how?

The very key to flower giving is simple, make it a surprise. The problem that most guys  (or whoever) face is they buy flowers just on a special occasion. This just makes you seem like you are doing this out of habit and not really putting thought into it. Make the flowers an even so that when she’s talking to all her friends it’s that thing you did last Tuesday!

Now one last tip is to survey the flowers when you are buying them. You want to buy the formation that has less flowers that are open and in a full bloom. Sure the ones that are blooming look nicer now but they won’t last long. If you give flowers that last longer the every lasting effects of them will last a bit longer.

Ok that was my two cents about giving flowers go share with your lover interest. And as always share my post with your friends so you spread the knowledge.

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