Break it up

Sometimes in relationships we find that the relationships is bah. We care about the person that we are in a relationship but at the same time are seeking something more. So in laymen terms you are settling and should end it for good reason.

Why

When you are dating going out in the world looking for a partner you are looking for someone who gives you butterflies in your gut. If the person your with doesn’t give you these feelings still its time to move on. The thing you have to remember is its OK to be single, some people are afraid of being alone so they stay in these dragged out relationships that wear them down when they could be out finding the real someone special. By letting someone go that isn’t perfect for you doors will open to people who more align with what you are looking for. This will make sure you are happier longer.

Example

A prime example of wasting time is a female friend of mine whose boyfriend just isn’t right for her. A few weeks ago she was texting me late at night how she didn’t’ really love him as much as she thought and doesn’t think he is right for her. So right there red flags should be going off for her, let him go. Though her boyfriend has a great job and is a decent guy hes not everything she has been dreaming of. If she lets him go I guarantee she finds a guy for her that is more aligned to her standards and will make her happy. Because there is no point staying with somebody who is just taking time away from who you should really be with.

Key

A key tool that I have used now a few times is to set a timeline. When I start a new relationship I give this person a set amount of time to make their impression on me. Sure the last few people who I dated were really into me and we got along great but there was something missing. So when I reached the end of my timeline and think are they worth spending more time with? And at 3 months I couldn’t see a future or I was having doubts I let them go. Believe me it hurts it sucks breaking up with someone who your conformable with but its worth the heart ache to find a soul mate. I know this worked for me and it can work for you too.

 

So keep your head up and know love is out there to find. Please share with your friends stuck in a nowhere relationship.

 

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How to Make Long Distance Work

A situation that we can get ourselves into once in a while is a long distance relationship. For the most part I think these are kind of pointless unless it’s for something like short-lived like college or something where it wasn’t like a permanent distance. But if it was how do you do that?

Something that is great about the age of technology is how connected we can be with everyone around us. If you find yourself in a long distance relationship you can call text and face time your significant other and still get to interact with them. Apps like snap chat let you share all your little moments of life that you would like to share with someone special that you would probably zombie out together on at home anyway. They even make sex toys now a days controlled by your other half so phone sex is kinda a thing of the past.

A best practice for people living apart but staying together are frequent visits. I had a friend that dated a girl who lived 5 hours away and the way he said the magic stayed alive as that he visited her as much as he could. By visiting her he instilled that he still cared and that feeling of longing for attention and affection wasn’t getting time to boil over. But there is still one trick that supersedes every rule in the book.

You most importantly need to trust their person you are in a relationship with. The same way relationships work in normal relationships work with far apart ones. If you trust your significant other you know that they will always be there for you no matter what. I think that the worst thing you can do is worry about what the other person is doing all the time and say there are members of the opposite sex always around. People that care about you will set boundaries and make it known that they have someone one back home that cares about them.

Well that is my tidbit for the day. Thanks for all the new followers and sorry I haven’t been posting started a new job that is kicking my butt! Please share with your friends and have a safe one.

 

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