How to Make Long Distance Work

A situation that we can get ourselves into once in a while is a long distance relationship. For the most part I think these are kind of pointless unless it’s for something like short-lived like college or something where it wasn’t like a permanent distance. But if it was how do you do that?

Something that is great about the age of technology is how connected we can be with everyone around us. If you find yourself in a long distance relationship you can call text and face time your significant other and still get to interact with them. Apps like snap chat let you share all your little moments of life that you would like to share with someone special that you would probably zombie out together on at home anyway. They even make sex toys now a days controlled by your other half so phone sex is kinda a thing of the past.

A best practice for people living apart but staying together are frequent visits. I had a friend that dated a girl who lived 5 hours away and the way he said the magic stayed alive as that he visited her as much as he could. By visiting her he instilled that he still cared and that feeling of longing for attention and affection wasn’t getting time to boil over. But there is still one trick that supersedes every rule in the book.

You most importantly need to trust their person you are in a relationship with. The same way relationships work in normal relationships work with far apart ones. If you trust your significant other you know that they will always be there for you no matter what. I think that the worst thing you can do is worry about what the other person is doing all the time and say there are members of the opposite sex always around. People that care about you will set boundaries and make it known that they have someone one back home that cares about them.

Well that is my tidbit for the day. Thanks for all the new followers and sorry I haven’t been posting started a new job that is kicking my butt! Please share with your friends and have a safe one.

 

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Change your Status ?

Something I ran into through my years of dating was if I should change my Facebook status or not. It’s usually the same scenario you meet someone and hit it off now you’re dating and they add you online and you feel the pressure to change your status to show your taken. What I am going to tell you is don’t just jump on the band waggon.

The reason I think you shouldn’t just go change your status is if it’s a fresh relationship you don’t know this person that well why jump the gun and tell the world about it. I think people all too often want to say hey look at me and don’t think about if it doesn’t work out right away. Nobody likes to see the person in and out of relationships for the next six months so why not leave a little mystery. You can just change it to not show anything about a relationship status. This way you don’t look like the loser that can’t keep someone happy or some skank.

Some may think your trying to hide something or you’re not proud to date them but sometimes people knowing ruins things. For example I dated a girl that I worked with once that became a superior to me and could have lost her job if work found out we were dating. You need to think about how social media changes things around and could ruin a relationship for the two of you.

That is my two cents on Facebook and statuses for now. And especially with all the negative news on Facebook maybe your better with less media than not!

 

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To Say I Love You

So we have all been there thinking do I say those three words or not? I was actually just there myself in my current relationship and let me tell you it felt great to get it off my chest.

I am not sure when this game of chicken of being the first one to say I love you to someone, but seems like that’s always the case. Everyone is always playing around it thinking how do you end the night? Do they feel the same way? What if they don’t? The truth of the matter is who cares?

I think no matter what if you are feeling in love with someone tell them. If your relationship is that much tilted in  your way where you feel more than them then they don’t deserve you. Don’t you want to be in a relationship where there is as much love as your putting out coming back to you? I think its good to just say it and see what happens let love ring!!!

Alright that is my public service announcement for the day! So sack up and tell someone special how you feel.

……. ohh and by the way my special someone said I know me too.

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Living Together Before Marriage

Something my college prep teacher once said was never to room with your best friend, has stuck with me all these years. Hanging out with someone all the time is fine and dandy but when they put their tooth-brush on the sink and leave a mess that bothers you it might not be a good thing. That is why I think it is important to always test living with someone you plan on marrying before you tie the knot.

Sure many people are doing this now a days but I still hear about people being old school and waiting. A key example would be my friend’s sister. She married her husband not ever-living long-term together and she can’t stand a lot of things her husband does. Sure there is love there but there also is stress that might not have been if she knew that living with this person was going to not be so pleasant. This just shows the old way isn’t always the best.

With the divorce rate being so high lately something needs to change. Why not trial your living together to see if it will work being with this person night and day. There may be things that you learn about your significant other by being so close all the time that when you went home just weren’t present. Kind of like I have a habit of doing weird things when I’m asleep like steal all the pillows on the bed.

So try it out or not but think of how expensive a divorce is and maybe a few months living in sin is worth saving the aggravation later..

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Dating a Single Parent

So once upon a time I dated the “hot” girl at work that had a couple of kids. Going into this relationship I was the typical young dumb 20 something that didn’t think about the commitment that went into dating someone with children. Here are a few things that may help you if you’re considering dating someone who comes with a few extra human beings.

The first thing I learned was that no matter what happens for the most part your always second. Kids take up a lot of a parents time and they usually come first. If you can’t deal with dropping kids off at school and making sure there is always a baby sitter then dating somebody with kids is not for you. You need to realize going into this relationship that these kids mean the world to this person you and they need care all the time. So you are an important person in their life you just aren’t thee most important.

From the first lesson you can learn the second thing I found out quick, you aren’t going to go out often. When I dated this person I was around 22 so prime drinking age. I would want to go to the bars or out partying with my friends and she wanted to stay home. What I didn’t at the time was she had a job to do as a mother and going out all the time didn’t fit into that. So if you are cool with Netflix and chilling at home a majority of the time you could withstand this relationship.

Another thing that is important that you need to talk about is how the kids will view you? Are you the new mommy or daddy? Or just Frank mommy’s friend? This also involves if you are going to discipline the kids at all. This is something that people can go either way on. Don’t hit my kid, don’t yell at them, and so on. What I ended up being was mommy’s boy friend and the adult in the situation so it was agreed upon that I would correct them  if I saw them doing something that wasn’t right. I think this would have been a good situation if we kept going because the kids did have their own father and I wasn’t there to replace him.

One of the last things you should know about being in a relationship with someone with kids issss…. the kids will grow on your and if you  break up with this person your breaking up with them too. We all know we don’t go into something hoping for it to fail but in the case of breaking a kids heart you need to think about all the outcomes. My exes kids end up messaging me here and there but for the most part I think I was the one that lost my little friends.

So that’s it for this post so I don’t end up rambling on about an ex lover. I would like to thank all the people who started following the blog and urge everyone to share with your friends.

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Holiday Hot Hand

So this is a really quick post that I forgot to add-on Easter….

So if your on any of those dating apps and you don’t always go on, it is important to log in on a holiday. I have found and you can do some research that people get lonely on holidays when they don’t have that someone special to share with family and friends. So what ends up happening is there is an influx of traffic on all the dating sites. New users pop up and you need to be one of the first to get their attention.

ok I won’t drag this on just know you have a better chance of matching with people when more are swiping right. And you don’t know today you could catch the tail end of Dyngus day rush.

So have a good one and have fun swiping. Please share with your friends!

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Cheap things to do

So we have all had those times where we are broke as a joke without a nickel for a coke, but still would like to hang out with that special. So I came up with  small list of things that I have done that got me to hang with a special person but at the same time save some bucks.

Drive and Jam

Who doesn’t love to drive around and jam to some good tunes. I always loved cruising on some country back roads just talking and getting to know somebody while also sharing music we love. If it was somebody really special I would set up music I wanted to hear that made me think about them to let them know how I felt. And lastly you can always find a place to “park” to make out or whatever you choose ;).

 

Buy a Puzzle

Puzzles are relatively cheap and if you get one that is big it can take a while to complete. I recently completed a month-long journey putting a puzzle together with my girlfriend. By doing this there was always something to do after dinner and at the end of putting it together you can glue it and have a cool picture to keep.

 

Stream and Chill

This one was bound to come up right? If your kinda a movie buff like me you probably like to watch movies a lot. By picking one of these services (Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, etc) that you probably already have you can just hang out and share your favorite shows with your partner. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t like an excuse to cuddle on the couch with that someone special.

Local Site See

So many places have a lot of cool touristy attractions that locals don’t always go see cause it’s not new and exciting. I encourage you to find someplace that is a nice local attraction to take some cheesy pictures and maybe learn something. It’s always cool to make a unique memory and seeing something like Niagara Falls will blow your mind. (Yea if you have never seen the falls I encourage you to do so its pretty sweet. Even if it’s a vacation stop you won’t be disappointed.

 

Alright all that is my quick list of cheap stuff to do for a date night. I hope you got a new idea of something fun to do. As always share with your friends and have a safe one….I have a puzzle to finish..

 

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