In the modern age of Tinder dating there are a lot of creepy crawly things going around and you need to stay protected. The common miss conception is that just because you aren’t having intercourse you are not at risk for a disease. Some diseases such as herpes can be spread through oral sex and nobody wants that. My suggestion is flavored condoms.
Flavored can keep a barrier between you and whoever you are with keeping you safe. The best part about them is that they are FLAVORED. Straight, Gay, or whatever you identify as who doesn’t like flavored things. Some of the big named companies make interesting flavors that give oral sex an added layer. I personally have not had one in my mouth but they do smell good and the partners I had enjoyed them. There is also is another added bonus that can come in handy.
Ever come to that moment where things got spiced up and you or the other person is going down south but hey you don’t like the ending of giving head? Boom these condoms will change that nobody has to worry about spitting or swallowing, even that tapping the shoulder game is all over. You can enjoy oral and not ever have to worry about these things again. And if it gets heated up more than that you can just have sex because Hey! they are condoms.
All right readers that’s it for my little service announcement of the day. Please share with your friends.
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So you and that special someone have broken it off and nothing seems as good as it once was. Your stalking their Facebook, listening to that artist they told you about, or whatever it is that makes missing them suck a little less. Now its a few weeks later they want to get better and you think this will make all the hurt go away. STOP!!!!
One of the worst things you can do is go back to an ex lover. Sure there are many fairy tale stories of this happening and everything working out but usually this isn’t the case. You and this person broke up for some reason and that doesn’t change the situation. It might take some time but this bad part of the two of you will surface again and again pushing you apart. You have to realize that you deserve a relationship where everything is actually better.
I have made this mistake myself and let me tell you it isn’t fun and until you realize your mistake you are going to keep making the same one with this person. I kept going back to the same old person and getting bossed around day in and day out. I was miserable but I didn’t want to be without this person. This was because I didn’t think I could ever have what I had with this person again. Let say that I found that and more, and its possible that everything got even better.
There are billions of people in this world so why settle for the one that isn’t a perfect fit. Keep searching and looking to you find the person that makes you feel all special inside in the good times and the bad.
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With the drug epidemic growing to new heights daily you are probably going to run into someone with a drug addiction. You could be like I was and think I would never date someone who has mixed themselves up with this kind of thing. Well as I learned you will too that we all have our flaws and you could be missing out on a special person that is going through the fight of their life.
If you happen to run into a person that you fancy and they end up sharing this part of their life with you they need someone understanding. They need someone who is going to support them with trying to live a sober life style for the rest of their life. This could mean not drinking around them or not smoking. Any substance that can lead them down the rabbit hole into darkness.
In my experience they will also need positive fun things to do. This could be just about anything that isn’t bar hopping. You could take up skiing, bowling, lifting, or just about anything with an ing. I have seen how people shy away from people going through this because they can’t chill and have a drink. All this does is depress an addict making them feel bad about the situation they are in and pull away from everyone. But the person that is the afflict needs to also be open about how they are feeling and let people in. Which leads into one of the harder points of dating an addict.
The hardest part of dating someone with an addiction is how they don’t seem to let you in all the time. From what I have learned if you are not an addict they may feel a little insecure and only share things with their group or counselors. It may take time to have them open up to you about everything going on in their life but it will be worth it. I have learned that there are just some things having this support from others isn’t something you should take as a personal offense but something to be thankful they have. Addicts need all the support they can get to stay clean and not go down the wrong path.
To the addicts reading this you are strong and you can make it through this there are better things out there for you. I hope this post helps people dealing with this situation and not cutting and running with people suffering from addiction.
So you may have or not been in the situation you are on a “date” or “hanging out” with somebody that you just met and the hormones start flying around. You and this person just click and things are heating up. Next thing you know its decision time….. to have sex or not.
Now we all want to have sex and there is nothing wrong with doing the deed but there are some things to consider. Whatever you do the first time you meet each other sets the precedent for the rest of the relationship that the two of you have with each other. So ladies you go and let some guy have sex with you the first time you meet he is going to think this is what is going to be happening all the time I know I do. So if you don’t plan on getting down all the time I would wait for a second date.
Another thing for the ladies to consider when putting out the first date is why would this guy continue to see you? Ever hear of why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? In my experience if you just meet somebody and have sex right away that’s all they were really looking for and it’s not going too much farther.
A thing for the guys to think about is if you get lucky on the first date how many other guys have also gotten lucky on the first date? It is way easier for girls to get picked up and taken out then it is for you to ask them out. Another thought is a girl who is that easy isn’t a girl you want to take home to mom.
Now there are always exceptions to the rule and you only live once so go out and experiment. This is all food for thought so eat up until next time.
So you downloaded your new dating app and have everything set to start browsing threw potential dates/sex partners/ whatever. Now this is the fun part about the new dating scene there is no need to go to the bar to make first contact with anyone. But there is a big problem with this because people can change whatever they want online to make themselves look better then what they really are and can pull you into their trap here are some things you should consider.
Now I think everyone is guilty of the swiping of every person that comes across your screen at some point during a desperate point but this is a big no no. Why you ask? Because with most of these apps there are a limited number of swipes you have in a day and only so many close single people with relevant profiles. This means you have to be a little pickier at who you are going swipe right on.
You should always read the persons profile to see if you have something in common with them or you have some bases of who they are. This no matter what you intentions are will give you a leg up if you end up matching with this person. Another reason it is good to check what their about me says are for the profiles that state “looking for my cheating boyfriend” or something around the lines that they are not into you. This just saves you a few swipes and chances of meeting a person you actually have a shot with.
Sometimes there is no about me listed and that doesn’t give you any help at all but can signify something else, bots. Now bots are something that the ladies don’t really have to worry about because from the talks with my female friends they haven’t run into them. On top of guys are more likely to fall for some trick that the model like blonde wants to meet up and have sex. Now guys bots is a topic I would like to spend a whole post on but the short of it is a bot is a picture of a girl that is just a front for a computer program that will try and drag you to some site that is designed to get your credit card information. Please don’t fall for this and watch out for any one that messages you real quick and gives you an out of town number.
Last quick point about swiping you need to know is what I call the down shot. The down shot is that selfie where the picture is taken above the person taking it. Chances are the person is covering up their size and if somebody can’t be honest with a few pictures what else can they be hiding.
That is a few quick pointers on swiping so go out and have some fun.
Here is a quick post about an everyday thing that may be able to help you out.
Venting is a very important part of any relationship. It lets you get things off your chance and let your other half know about what going on in your life. By continuously venting you can let out pent-up anger that you may be holding about something and avoid having a missed aimed out burst on your partner.
Venting as you see can help opening things up between two people and let them make a deeper connection, but there is another way you can use venting. Now nobody wants to thing that their relationship has soured and could be over but one way you can judge that is by seeing the reaction from your venting. I once dated someone who didn’t listen to what I had to say when I was frustrated and kept putting me down. By venting to them I was always causing them grief and wasting their time. This relationship took a nasty turn for the worse and didn’t end up for me.
So by paying attention to the level of attention and care your other half puts in while you tell them about your troubles you can know where you stand. This may not always be the case but if somebody will not give your problems the time of day how good are they for you?
Hope you liked the quick post and as always share with your friends and have a good one.
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Hey readers this is a service announcement for the LADIES or for some guys.
Ladies if you are looking to drive a guy crazy you are into or reignite the flame with your other half you need to look at your underwear selection. Even tho the fad of just not wearing any underwear is in guys love that moment of taking your underwear off, its like opening a present on Christmas. So when your wrapping your mans gift don’t go for the boring maroon wrappings for every day, get something cute to light up the world.
The key to picking something catchy is thinking of advertisement signs. advertisements are all bright and catch people’s eyes that is essentially what you want this special person to see. You could even pick out something that they are into like hunting camo, which I had a buddy whose wife got some and he was flipping out.
So stay flashy and don’t fall into an old boring rut. That is it for me for today just something to think of, and share with your friends.
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Sometimes in relationships we find that the relationships is bah. We care about the person that we are in a relationship but at the same time are seeking something more. So in laymen terms you are settling and should end it for good reason.
When you are dating going out in the world looking for a partner you are looking for someone who gives you butterflies in your gut. If the person your with doesn’t give you these feelings still its time to move on. The thing you have to remember is its OK to be single, some people are afraid of being alone so they stay in these dragged out relationships that wear them down when they could be out finding the real someone special. By letting someone go that isn’t perfect for you doors will open to people who more align with what you are looking for. This will make sure you are happier longer.
A prime example of wasting time is a female friend of mine whose boyfriend just isn’t right for her. A few weeks ago she was texting me late at night how she didn’t’ really love him as much as she thought and doesn’t think he is right for her. So right there red flags should be going off for her, let him go. Though her boyfriend has a great job and is a decent guy hes not everything she has been dreaming of. If she lets him go I guarantee she finds a guy for her that is more aligned to her standards and will make her happy. Because there is no point staying with somebody who is just taking time away from who you should really be with.
A key tool that I have used now a few times is to set a timeline. When I start a new relationship I give this person a set amount of time to make their impression on me. Sure the last few people who I dated were really into me and we got along great but there was something missing. So when I reached the end of my timeline and think are they worth spending more time with? And at 3 months I couldn’t see a future or I was having doubts I let them go. Believe me it hurts it sucks breaking up with someone who your conformable with but its worth the heart ache to find a soul mate. I know this worked for me and it can work for you too.
So keep your head up and know love is out there to find. Please share with your friends stuck in a nowhere relationship.
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At some point when you are dating somebody the two of you are going to want to get away. Here are a few hit item things to think about while pretending your get away.
Thats right I wanted to start out strong with the big one that hits home money. Money is the cause of a lot of relationship problems and when it comes to a trip what do you do? My best advice would be to plan ahead and save. By following this simple guide line you will be able to know in advance where you are going and have the money to do so. Whenever you make a haste decision you could end up spending more than you planned on and cause more stress then is needed. Set a few bucks a week aside for your trip and you will be on your way to vacation bliss.
Where to go?
Well high level question that comes up is where to go, I think this depends on the couple some are so in tune with each other where some can snap say we are going somewhere while others may need to battle it out. I suggest making a list and then seeing where you and your partner stand with everything. Maybe there is a mutual destination that wasn’t both your first pick that you can agree on. Or another easy idea for younger couples starting out is go visit out-of-town family. This can take part of the money of a trip out of the equation and you could have built-in people to hang with so it just wont be stress on the two of you.
Here is a printable diagram that can help you out: Vacation Diagram
OK so I am totally against the rushing around vacation where it’s all planned out but if you can make a list of thing you would like to do where you are going it could help the flow. Nobody wants to go away to just sit and watch TV all day. I suggest finding cool things to do in the area that you are going and make a list what you would like to see. Another cool trick is to talk to the locals and see where they like to eat and local things that tourist site don’t usually highlight.
Well hate to cut this short but I have to run and catch a plane to somewhere. Stay classy followers and remember to have a good one.
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Hey readers sorry for the big break, I have been working some crazy hours at my job and haven’t had time to write.
I would like to address the idea of cheating on someone stemming from the last post about how to catch a cheater. So in some religions it is talked about cheating on your husband or wife is deemed as a sin. So you may be non religious at all and thinking so why shouldn’t I cheat?
One of the key reasons you shouldn’t cheat on your better half is just basically not being a scum bag. The reasons of cheating are pretty simple there is someone else you find attractive physically or something else that revs your engine that your significant other doesn’t do but why? If you are going to cheat on them why not call them up and break up? It takes about 3 minutes of your time to just call somebody up and say well its over. That way you are not a scum bag and just a regular person moving on.
Another reason you shouldn’t cheat on somebody is you don’t want that cheater scum bag reputation. People can get a bad rap in the dating world as a cheater and most people won’t want anything to do with you. If anybody knows that they are going to invest their time in you for you just to stab them in that back they most likely won’t be making that risk.
Third and last quick reason why you shouldn’t cheat on your significant other is…….. Karma. I have seen it many times that things that people do now bite them in the ass later. You could be happy now screwing with a few people but later in life it could come back to haunt you when your sig other that you’re in love with is out shagging all the strange in the world while your home with their kids. All of this is just food for thought and to help you think about it before you end up ruining yours and some bodies life.
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The on thing that nobody want’s to learn about their better half is that they have been with someone else. I have had the displeasure of this happening to me a few times so I am going to lay down some things to look for that will help catch a cheater.
- Blame You
Normally something that people who are two timing you are going to do is push the suspicions away from them. In most cases they will do is accuse you of some moral wrong doing in the relationship so that they feel you are not thinking they are cheating. I myself think this sounds crazy but after having an ex claim I was cheating and I must not be into her then turned around and cheated it made sense.
2 No Answer
So something that is also really common is not having any contact from your partner for a while. Sure there are other cases that this will happen but it could point to cheating. If the person you are in a relationship is always answering calls and texts and on their phone and all of a sudden for the past few days it takes longer to respond that’s a sign. This points to their time that was used to answer you turned into time to answer someone else. A few times this happened to me where a time I would usually text my girlfriend I suddenly couldn’t get a hold of her because she was busy. this sends up red flags because she was never to busy to answer before and I never knew she got home from work so what was she doing? This leads me to the next section…..
3 Trust your gut
If something feels off in your relationship you need to trust it. Now I am a pretty trusting person and if you are like me you think the best of the people who you are dating. But on the other side of the coin if weird things are happening you should start to evaluate what is going on. When I had a few clues and had that feeling I confronted my ex and she ended up denying it and her answers didn’t add up. That is when I knew for sure she was cheating.
This was one that I should have picked up on that I didn’t. If you are having regular sex with your partner and then none there is something up. In my case it was “oh im tired” and a various of other excuses that never happened before. Especially when we used to make love before she went to work all the time. The reason for this is the person cheating is feeling guilty for what they are doing and can’t stand to be with you that way.
The number one way to tell if someone is cheating is their phone. IF you have access to your partners phone and your suspect them of cheating it’s probably on their phone. Most people slip up and forgot to deleted some message or some picture that is incriminating. Also things that you can look at are what they are liking on Facebook or who is commenting on all their posts. These things all tie together the point of if your other half tweaks when you just pick their phone up they are hiding something and you shouldn’t just brush it off.
I hope this was somewhat helpful and can help others from prolonging the pain of being put on. I have had this happen a few times and it is not fun. So keep your eyes open and try not to let love blind you so much.
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A situation that we can get ourselves into once in a while is a long distance relationship. For the most part I think these are kind of pointless unless it’s for something like short-lived like college or something where it wasn’t like a permanent distance. But if it was how do you do that?
Something that is great about the age of technology is how connected we can be with everyone around us. If you find yourself in a long distance relationship you can call text and face time your significant other and still get to interact with them. Apps like snap chat let you share all your little moments of life that you would like to share with someone special that you would probably zombie out together on at home anyway. They even make sex toys now a days controlled by your other half so phone sex is kinda a thing of the past.
A best practice for people living apart but staying together are frequent visits. I had a friend that dated a girl who lived 5 hours away and the way he said the magic stayed alive as that he visited her as much as he could. By visiting her he instilled that he still cared and that feeling of longing for attention and affection wasn’t getting time to boil over. But there is still one trick that supersedes every rule in the book.
You most importantly need to trust their person you are in a relationship with. The same way relationships work in normal relationships work with far apart ones. If you trust your significant other you know that they will always be there for you no matter what. I think that the worst thing you can do is worry about what the other person is doing all the time and say there are members of the opposite sex always around. People that care about you will set boundaries and make it known that they have someone one back home that cares about them.
Well that is my tidbit for the day. Thanks for all the new followers and sorry I haven’t been posting started a new job that is kicking my butt! Please share with your friends and have a safe one.
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Something I ran into through my years of dating was if I should change my Facebook status or not. It’s usually the same scenario you meet someone and hit it off now you’re dating and they add you online and you feel the pressure to change your status to show your taken. What I am going to tell you is don’t just jump on the band waggon.
The reason I think you shouldn’t just go change your status is if it’s a fresh relationship you don’t know this person that well why jump the gun and tell the world about it. I think people all too often want to say hey look at me and don’t think about if it doesn’t work out right away. Nobody likes to see the person in and out of relationships for the next six months so why not leave a little mystery. You can just change it to not show anything about a relationship status. This way you don’t look like the loser that can’t keep someone happy or some skank.
Some may think your trying to hide something or you’re not proud to date them but sometimes people knowing ruins things. For example I dated a girl that I worked with once that became a superior to me and could have lost her job if work found out we were dating. You need to think about how social media changes things around and could ruin a relationship for the two of you.
That is my two cents on Facebook and statuses for now. And especially with all the negative news on Facebook maybe your better with less media than not!
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So we have all been there thinking do I say those three words or not? I was actually just there myself in my current relationship and let me tell you it felt great to get it off my chest.
I am not sure when this game of chicken of being the first one to say I love you to someone, but seems like that’s always the case. Everyone is always playing around it thinking how do you end the night? Do they feel the same way? What if they don’t? The truth of the matter is who cares?
I think no matter what if you are feeling in love with someone tell them. If your relationship is that much tilted in your way where you feel more than them then they don’t deserve you. Don’t you want to be in a relationship where there is as much love as your putting out coming back to you? I think its good to just say it and see what happens let love ring!!!
Alright that is my public service announcement for the day! So sack up and tell someone special how you feel.
……. ohh and by the way my special someone said I know me too.
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